The Christ in Prophecy Journal

Words With Consequences (Part 1 of 4)

Steve Howell

[Editor’s Note: Pastor Steve Howell is the Adult Education Minister at Tonganoxie Christian Church in Tonganoxie, Kansas. He’s a gifted teacher, preacher and writer and all around good friend. The following is an adaptation of one of his insightful sermons concerning Christian living in these last days.]

Can I share an embarrassing story?

It was Thanksgiving Day. My family and I were getting ready to go to a friend’s house for dinner. We were in charge of bringing a couple of the food items. My wife Deb had spent hours working on her famous stuffed mushrooms, getting all the flavors blended just right. I don’t even like mushrooms, but even I think these are delicious!

As we’re getting ready to leave, I was carrying out the mushrooms in a cupcake carrier. It had a lid attached to the bottom instead of the top, which is convenient and effective, if the lid is on tight. Ours, it turned out, was hanging by a thread, even if it seemed solid at the time. Well, I was walking down the front steps and got to the bottom of the stairs. All of the sudden, the bottom drops out of the carrier. All the mushrooms fell out and onto the landing. Stuffed mushrooms splattered everywhere. Nothing is salvageable. Nothing!

I stood in horror looking at the mess. The only thing that I could do was scream out the only word that seemed appropriate. Let’s just say that it was not a “minister-approved” word. It may have been four letters long. And, I said it LOUD. It was so loud that my elementary-aged son, who was out in the van in the driveway, come back to the house and asked, “Did Dad just say the s-word?” It was so loud that our neighbors, who were out in their front yard hanging Christmas lights, all heard it (sorry, Gary and Tammy).

I readily admit that this was not the proudest moment of my life or my ministry career.

I’m pretty sure though that I am not the only one who has done such a thing. Confession time! Stand up if you’ve ever:

  • Cussed at least once during Christmas shopping?
  • Yelled at someone in anger while making Christmas dinner?
  • Got in a pointless argument while opening presents?
  • Talked badly about someone who didn’t make the trip for the holidays?

If you didn’t stand up yet, well, your time will come.

James 3:2 reveals about humanity that, “All of us make a lot of mistakes. If someone doesn’t make any mistakes when he speaks, he would be perfect. He would be able to control everything he does.”

Mistakes of the tongue are everywhere. We all at one time or another have issue with it. So, the question for us is, “What do we do about it?” What do we do about our tongue’s tendency to say the wrong things? Let’s explore this question and consider a few options.

Option #1: Just Let It Ride

Maybe it’s time to stop worrying about it. Maybe we just come to terms with the fact that we say bad things and just let it go. Since we all at some time say some bad stuff, is that then so horrible?

How many times since childhood have we been taught, “Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will never hurt us?” How often has you wife told you, “You’re thinking it, so you might as well say it.” The country music philosopher Toby Keith advises, “Don’t compromise, even if it hurts to be yourself.” As an anonymous pundit once stated, “Anything said on the way to the bathroom is non-binding as you’ll agree to anything it that situation.”

We may say some things that we don’t mean or like or that others don’t like, but it could be worse. After all, saying whatever comes to mind has some positives. Take these for example:

  1. Forgivable — Anything you say can be forgiven by others and by God.
  2. Honest — We don’t have to worry about being politically correct or be accused of being “fake” when we are brutally honest and say whatever comes to our minds.
  3. Character-building — We’re actually helping people around us work on their ability to forgive and forget. We may even be helping address needs, like the husband whose wife said, “I’m fat.” In all tenderness and understanding, he replies, “So? I’m fat too.”

Just letting it ride may seem like a pretty good way to handle our tongues. But, the Bible obviously has totally different take on this topic. As James 3:9-10 admonishes, “With our tongues we praise our Lord and Father. Yet with the same tongues we curse people who were created in God’s likeness. Praise and curses come from the same mouth. Brothers and sisters, this should not happen.”

The Bible declares then that “just let it ride” is not a viable option. We should not be saying everything that comes to mind, especially because a lot of what comes to mind is evil.

James goes on in chapters 3-5 to share some of the bad things that come off our tongues when we aren’t careful:

  • False teachings (3:1) — We have to be careful about what we teach others.
  • Bragging (3:14; 4:16) — We speak too highly of ourselves, making others look bad resulting in making God displeased.
  • Fighting and Quarrelling (4:1) — Unrestrained tongues lead to arguments and trouble, breaking up any peace that could exist.
  • Slander (4:11) — We hurt others with our words, damaging their reputation and crushing their spirits.
  • Complaining (5:9) — Talking badly about your circumstances leads to discord, hurting any chance of success and making it harder for you and others to work together in the future.
  • Flippantly making oaths (5:12) — When we make promises we don’t keep, or don’t intend to keep, we damage our own reputation and let down those who count on us.

If we’re honest with ourselves, we know that there have been some things said to us at some point in our lives that really hurt. We’d almost rather take the sticks and stones than the words that were said, right? Maybe they were mocking words, or maybe they were hateful words, or maybe they were critical of us personally. Because of the blow to our feelings and self-esteem, we know that words do have power. God Himself spoke the universe into existence, and while we may not have that power to create with our words, we certainly have the power to destroy with them. With a mere word we can destroy someone’s confidence, destroy trust, and destroy peace.

I can still remember a careless word once given by my dad. I was a state band competition and had just completed a difficult solo on my euphonium. I knew it wasn’t my best performance ever, but I was playing music that was above the difficulty level of the competition. As I walked out, I just wanted some words of encouragement to steady my nerves and lift my spirits. Instead, what I got was my dad who walked out and silently flashed a “two” with his fingers. He was saying that my performance was flawed and there was no chance of me getting a “one,” which is the rating that was my goal. What he said with those unspoken words wasn’t meant to be mean-spirited, but it wasn’t encouraging. To me, it was like he flat out stated, “Son, you just aren’t good enough.” And it hurt.

I know I’ve said worse things to people in my life, and so have you. We’ve heard them from others. That’s why “just letting it ride” only causes hurt, regret and sin. We know first-hand that “just letting it ride” when it comes to our tongue is neither a good nor biblical solution.

Maybe it’s time to look at another option, which we’ll do in the second part of this series on words with consequences.

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Dr. Nathan E. Jones

As the Internet Evangelist at Lamb & Lion Ministries, Nathan reaches out to the over 4.5 billion people accessible over the Internet with the Good News of Jesus Christ. He also co-hosts the ministry's television program Christ in Prophecy and podcast The Truth Will Set You Free.

8 CommentsLeave a Comment

  • Thanks and praise and glory to our Lord Jesus for His blessing of healing. My Mom is doing much better after 4 emergency room visits in 2 weeks with different ailments each time.

    Thank you all for you prayers.

    My Aunt Linda is back in the hospital and need more prayers!

    Thank you and God bless ALL of you that took time to pray for my Mom & Aunt Linda.

    I love you all as a friend in Christ.

  • Billy, awesome news! Praise God! I will add ur aunt to my prayer chain list for a month if u would like! Maybe just remind me a little about her illness.
    Speaking of praise reports.. i wanted to share with u all that after waiting 5 yrs since my husband died and seriously trusting the Lord for the last 2 on this……. i had my hearing at the v.a. for my late husbands military benefits and i was awarded ALL benefits which includes a college education for my son who is a senior right now!!!!! Thank u Lord Jesus :):):):):)

    Also billy, what r your 3 favorite teaching products u have purchased at l&l??? I will be adding to my meager library very soon and i was hoping u could recommend ur favs!! Thanks

  • Susie,

    I have near a hundred DVDs over the years (they would send them most months if you're a Prophecy Partner)and purchased some separately.

    It's hard to pick 3 favorites but the ones that stick out in my mind and has always moved me very much would be Psalm 2: The King is Coming!, described as follows at L&

    "Dr. David Reagan presents his most frequently requested sermon, preaching through Psalm 2 verse by verse and showing how it is one of the greatest passages in the Bible concerning the Second Coming of Jesus. Dr. Reagan demonstrates that God has the wisdom and power to orchestrate all the evil of Man and Satan to the triumph of Jesus, and how we are going to win in the end and then participate in the Lord's worldwide reign.

    You will be shouting, "Maranatha! Maranatha!" with Dr. Reagan as he brings this presentation to its conclusion!"

    It is true you will shout "Maranatha!" at the end…it is wonderful.;jsessionid=1550f5f206ddc52/shopdata/0007_Video/0070_Prophecy/product_details.shopscript?article=0070

    The other DVD that was very emotionally moving is the one Nathan did which is linked on L&'s main page link "Did Many People Disappear?"

    The ending scenes of reunion with loved ones will bring you to tears.

    I like all Dr. Reagan's book but really like "A Prophetic Manifesto" which is what is really needed most at this late date in the season of the Lord's return.;jsessionid=1550f5f206ddc52/shopdata/0010_Books/product_details.shopscript?article=0001

    Another great DVD (but it's not available anymore I think) was about a gangster (the Mob, not a gang) who turned to Christ. Incredible story.

    God bless!

  • Billy, thanks for the info! I will definitely get all the above … im glad u said something about the manifesto.. i remember now that i really wanted to read it. Thanks again brother!

  • Billy, I've got this blog set up so that after we're Raptured the final post will be our "left behind" video. I'm praying our blog here would have an even greater impact after than before.

  • Nathan and billy… wow… that rapture video is excellent ! I was moved to tears! I think it will bring many to the Lord in a very frightening time. Powerful … to Gods glory for sure :):):)

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